But if you listen closely to the tiny voice in your head, the calm one, that is you talking. And if you turn up the volume on it and try to listen, it blocks all the other voices out. – Rowan Blanchard
*I’m starting a weekly series and “truth or dare” is the first one! It’s about things that are super important to me.*
Truth or dare is game we play and this is how I’d define the terms:
- Truth – your honest opinion that comes from yourself; could be an embarrassing secret or unpopular opinion
- Dare – a scary thing that someone else tells you to do; could be an undesirable act or doing something you hate
I’m definitely a truth person because it’s easier for me to use words than to physically do something I don’t want to do. This might be seen as wimpy. It’s usually seen as braver to take on a big, scary action. But what I realized as I get older is that
Truth and dare is often the same thing in a world where speaking up could get you in trouble.
I’ve gotten myself in trouble several times at work when I spoke up about something that wasn’t fair or right. People, especially authority figures, simply don’t like those who don’t follow directions. They especially don’t like it when they assume I’d do what they say, and it turns out I won’t. The voice inside my head is literally saying:
In my adult life, I’d say telling the truth has been far scarier than eating worms/skydiving/needles or any “dare” could be. There are so many consequences you need to live with when you tell the truth that people don’t want to hear. For example, you could be:
- fired from a job / ruin your career
- lose your friends and acquaintances
- gas-lighted – people make you doubt yourself
- criticized & harassed in person or online
- made out to be bad guy??!!!?
- lose sleep and go under a ton of stress
Even knowing all of these might happen as a result of telling the truth, I still feel that it is so important that the truth be told. I’ve always been into journalism and looked up for people who report facts and find out stories that we might–we WOULDN’T– have known about otherwise. If it makes certain people soooo uncomfortable that the truth is told, isn’t it even more necessary that we state the facts? If you haven’t done anything shady or inappropriate, there is no need to silence people.
I think truth is one of those things that is as free as air and as valuable as gold at the same time. Truth already exists and it can’t be taken away; however, if it’s something that people want to keep secret, all of a sudden it becomes super valuable. People would pay/do/say anything to keep you quiet because they don’t want the truth to come out.
When I’ve made the difficult decision to tell the truth, the results I’ve gotten are that people get very offended, angry, or they label themselves as the victims. This is me when they do that:
I can’t really believe that they have the nerve to do what they did and NOT WANT ANYONE ELSE TO TALK ABOUT IT. These are often the very people who will preach about “consequences” and “integrity” and I. JUST. CAN’T. at the hypocrisy. It makes me feel like we are living in The Scarlet Letter times.
So what is there to do? I think my girl Rowan Blanchard said it best in the article “Sorry, Not Sorry;” the truth already exists, it’s just a matter of covering or uncovering it.
You don’t have to apologize for who you are, and you certainly don’t have to apologize for who you are not.
In conclusion, telling the truth makes any dare seem like a piece of cake (but I still will take truth over dare cuz EVEN THE BRAVEST PERSON IS WIMPY IN SOME REGARDS.)